Excerpts taken from Dr. Paul Ekman’s scientific autobiography, “Nonverbal Messages: Cracking the Code” (p. 237-239) When is it a lie? Many of signs of lying have been identified, but are not shown by everyone. Their absence does not mean a person is truthful, but their presence, especially when there are multiple different types of signs (e.g., a fragment of a shrug … [Read more...] about Signs of Lying: What micro expressions can and can’t tell us
The following excerpt about constructive anger is taken from the book of dialogue between the Dalai Lama and myself, entitled Emotional Awareness (2009). Having just reread it, I found nothing to change; I still believe it raises the right question, makes a useful suggestion and offers a practice to learn it. It is only when life itself is threatened (our own or that of others) … [Read more...] about “Constructive Anger” Excerpt from Emotional Awareness
There is no tell-tale, sure-fire, absolutely reliable sign of lying. Nothing in demeanour or physiology which is always present when someone lies and always absent when someone is truthful has yet been discovered. But that doesn't mean it isn't sometimes possible to do far better than chance in discerning whether a person is lying or telling the truth.Some government agencies … [Read more...] about Would you Lie to me?
I hear it all the time: If you cross your arms, you are blocking others out and sending a negative message. I'm sure you have also heard this. But is it accurate? Let me inform you now that it is not. It is a simplistic misconception, similar to other myths, such as the idea you look away, you are lying. Let’s examine this often maligned, little understood, yet very useful … [Read more...] about 9 Truths Exposing a Myth about Body Language
What predicts who will be more successful at deception? One important line of research had adolescents, aged 11 to 16, lie or tell the truth about their enjoyment of a soft drink that tasted either good or bad. Adult judges watched them on videotape and tried to determine if they were lying or telling the truth. Beforehand, the researchers had assessed each adolescent’s … [Read more...] about Which Children are the Best Liars? How about Adults?