Excerpts taken from Dr. Paul Ekman’s scientific autobiography, “Nonverbal Messages: Cracking the Code” (p. 237-239) When is it a lie? Many of signs of lying have been identified, but are not shown by everyone. Their absence does not mean a person is truthful, but their presence, especially when there are multiple different types of signs (e.g., a fragment of a shrug … [Read more...] about Signs of Lying: What micro expressions can and can’t tell us
The following excerpt about constructive anger is taken from the book of dialogue between the Dalai Lama and myself, entitled Emotional Awareness (2009). Having just reread it, I found nothing to change; I still believe it raises the right question, makes a useful suggestion and offers a practice to learn it. It is only when life itself is threatened (our own or that of others) … [Read more...] about “Constructive Anger” Excerpt from Emotional Awareness
There is no tell-tale, sure-fire, absolutely reliable sign of lying. Nothing in demeanour or physiology which is always present when someone lies and always absent when someone is truthful has yet been discovered. But that doesn't mean it isn't sometimes possible to do far better than chance in discerning whether a person is lying or telling the truth.Some government agencies … [Read more...] about Would you Lie to me?
I am often asked what it means when someone shifts their jaw to the side as demonstrated in the photograph. I first observed this behavior in 1975, while working as a police officer. While interviewing an individual accused of shoplifting I noticed he shifted his jaw to the side when I asked the question, “Have you been arrested previously for shoplifting?” After some … [Read more...] about Jaw Shifting
Readers of this blog by now are aware that nonverbals are important in letting us know what people are thinking, feeling, desiring, intending or even dreading. It also helps us to communicate more effectively or to be more empathetic. Every day, if we are observant, people are demonstrating behaviors that give us personal insight whether we are at home, at school, or … [Read more...] about Reserved Behaviors in the Study of Nonverbal Communications